21 Rules of Adulthood
Daily Life
There are a couple of things I have to remind myself as I decide what to do each day, create the life I want, and take care of myself. I wrote them down here for you to consider. As always, take what you need and leave all the rest.
You get to choose. In many ways you have a lot of freedom. You get to choose to go to work or start a business or post on social media or end a relationship and start a new one. You get to choose.
Address your parts that shame and blame you, move on, and make a different choice.
You can (and probably will) fuck up 7 ways from Sunday. You STILL have value and worth as a human being. You are still loved and wanted
People will behave coldly, cruelly, miserably, etc towards you and it might not have anything to do with you. Check in with a friend, coach, or therapist, take care of yourself, go do something fun
No one thing defines your life. No one job, relationship, mistake, choice, path
There are multiple solutions and paths for every problem you have
it is not your job to save anyone but yourself and even then its ok to ask for support
try everything you’re interested in
do hard things
define and uphold your boundaries
think for yourself, question everything, even your own thoughts and assumptions
take care of yourself and get support during life’s unavoidable pain. Running, denying, suppressing true necessary pain will cause much more harm and suffering than facing it and walking through EVER will
eat a salad, take a walk can be an effective health plan
start messy, start sad, start scared, start uncertain. Just start
its ok that you are right here right now
taking responsibility for yourself is empowering
let your no’s mean no and your yes’s mean yes. integrity is when your thoughts, words, and actions are in alignment
define and live by your values. make sure every choice is in alignment with your values, it will save you a ton of suffering later.
you are going to be average at some things, mediocre at other things, terrible with others, and great at maybe 1 or 2 things. Despite what social media tells you this is all normal and ok. Be present and enjoy your life. It doesn’t have to look or be instagram perfect
nothing is guaranteed, you have no idea how much time you have left
you are creative, balance consuming with creating, receiving and giving
Much love and many blessings,
Meagan